At the National Speakers Convention in August, I had the good fortune to hear leadership guru Marshall Goldsmith give a keynote speech. He's the best speaker bar none I've ever seen in action. "I'm a Buddhist," he told the crowd. "I'm gonna die anyway. I might as well do some good here." What makes Goldsmith so great? He exudes what a dear friend of mine once described as The Four H's of Public Speaking: humanity, humility, honesty and humor. Goldsmith encouraged us to freely share his materials. Taking him at his word, I offer you some notes I scribbled down as he was talking:
Annoying Habits That Hold Us Back
- Winning too much: There's no need to one-up people to demonstrate your worth.
- Adding too much value: Just listen to others' thoughts and say, "Great idea!" Don't detract from their moment in the sun by adding, "But did you think of...."
- Saying "I already knew that."
- Passing judgment. Help more; judge less. Don't be a critic. Shut up and enjoy.
Note: I found Goldsmith's photo on his website.